Do as I Say (Not as I Do)

Do as I Say (Not as I Do) is an idiom and proverb highlighting a perceived hypocrisy in someone who instructs or advises others to behave in a certain way, but does not follow those same principles or practices themselves. The phrase suggests a disconnect between a person's words and their actions, implying that their advice is not genuine, lacks conviction, or is perhaps given without a true understanding of the challenges involved in following it.

The underlying message of the idiom is often one of distrust or skepticism. Individuals are more likely to be influenced by observed behavior (actions) than by verbal instruction (saying). When actions contradict words, the value and credibility of the advice given is diminished. The phrase implies that the person giving the advice does not genuinely believe in it, or is unwilling to hold themselves to the same standard they expect of others.

This phrase can be used in a variety of contexts, ranging from personal relationships to professional environments and even political discourse. It is often used to criticize leaders, authority figures, or anyone perceived as having a responsibility to set a good example. The idiom frequently surfaces in discussions about ethics, integrity, and the importance of leading by example. However, sometimes it may be used in contexts where the speaker acknowledgingly admits their own shortcomings but still firmly believes in the advice they are giving.