Dotakon

Dotakon (ドタコン) is a Japanese slang term, primarily used in online gaming contexts, particularly massively multiplayer online role-playing games (MMORPGs) and other online multiplayer games. It describes a player who persistently and aggressively pursues a relationship with another player, often ignoring or dismissing their disinterest or lack of reciprocation.

The term is a portmanteau of "dotakyan" (ドタキャン), meaning to cancel an appointment at the last minute, and "konkatsu" (婚活), meaning marriage hunting. Thus, "dotakon" carries the connotation of a desperate or excessively eager pursuit of romance, often characterized by clinginess, constant messaging, unsolicited gifts (usually virtual items), and a general lack of respect for personal boundaries.

Unlike genuine courtship, "dotakon" behavior is often perceived as selfish and disruptive to the game's social environment. The "dotakon" player may prioritize their romantic pursuit over cooperative gameplay, team objectives, or general courtesy towards other players. Their actions can range from simply being annoying to outright harassment, depending on the intensity and invasiveness of their advances.

The term is used primarily to negatively describe the behavior of the pursuer, highlighting the imbalance of power and the lack of consideration for the other person's feelings or wishes. The target of "dotakon" behavior is often made uncomfortable or even forced to leave the game or change their in-game identity to avoid further unwanted attention.

While the term originated in online gaming, it can sometimes be applied to similar overly-eager and boundary-crossing pursuit of romantic relationships in other online communities and even in real-life situations, although its primary association remains within the gaming sphere.